Right from high school, I always had a thing for Asian girls. My best friend (friendzone alert) was a Thai girl with a great physique and personality. Fast-forward to the present day, and my marriage to an Amazing Japanese lady has taught me some things about dating Asian women.
The media has portrayed Asian wives as unidimensional. If you’re looking for a legit mail order bride, it’s tempting to take what we see in movies like Mail Order Wife and run with it. However, you’re here because you want to know what works in the real world, aren’t you?
My experience with marrying one Asian woman while being best friends with another has gifted me with tips to help other guys interested in Asian girls. This article will walk you through, so let’s get right to it.
Asian girls are cultural at heart
No matter how ‘modern’ an Asian girl is, she will still uphold her cultural values. If you’re courting one, you should learn about her roots. Even though there are similarities, cultures differ from country to country across Asia.
You should know which country she’s from and keep it in mind. Except she’s a student of History, don’t show off your knowledge of the Thai culture to a Japanese woman. Likewise, rambling about how tasty Sochu is won’t score you any points with a Chinese girl.
Not every Asian girl can speak her native language
While respecting her culture, it’s easy to assume she speaks her native tongue. While many Asian girls do, some don’t, and it’s impolite to just assume and start throwing out the few sentences you learned on Duolingo. Always ask first — she’ll appreciate it.
This is more of the case with Asian girls that have spent all of their lives abroad. If you’re in the US and that pretty Korean colleague in HR tickles your fancy, your first words to her shouldn’t be, ‘Annyeoung.’ You may just embarrass her.
If she speaks a second language, pick up a few words
On the flip-side, when you grow closer and find that she speaks another language (it mustn’t be her native language), you should learn a little about it. This is the time to consult Rosetta Stone. She doesn’t expect you to learn the entire language in one week, but picking up a few words will help.
I suggest learning phrases and terms you’d use in daily conversations with her. Also, you’d want to learn a couple of compliments. If you’re feeling confident, throw in a few pet names into the mix — it may open doors for you.
Her parents may not be so welcoming at first
If you decide to get really serious with her, brace for the worst. Well, not the actual worst — just an initial cold shoulder from her parents. It isn’t uncommon for men looking for Asian women for marriage to be rejected by their parents.
This is because sometimes, her parents may already have someone in mind for her. Most times, it has nothing to do with you or your personality, so don’t think too much of it. Keep your commitment and they’ll budge, plus she’ll love you for it.
Learn how to eat
As funny as this sounds, with Asian girls, food is a little more than just nutrients in a bowl. Apart from the chopsticks, there are some other preferences you should watch out for. If you’re having tea with her family, refill your cup last. Just trust me here.
It’s impolite to pour liquid for yourself first. You also should refill cups in decreasing order of age (from oldest to youngest). Another thing to expect is spicy food — a lot of spicy food.
Don’t be forgettable
Asian girls get a lot of attention. Foreign men have been trying to get Asian brides for themselves for a long time. This means you are probably up against some stiff competition.
The way to stay ahead is by not being bland.
I fell into this trap with my Thai best friend. Try spicing up your interactions with her and not being a Goody-two-shoes about it. She’ll love a few innuendoes and naughty jokes, but don’t overdo it.
She’ll appreciate your sincerity
Asian girls are intuitive. If you are in a relationship with one, chances are that she’s attentive to the things you do. No matter how sly you think you are, she will always tell when something’s up.
I advise that you remain true to her and be truthful. It’s not the end of the world if you make a few bad decisions. Coming clean with her will show how dedicated you are to the love you share. The bonus part is that they’re usually peaceful, so she won’t fly off the handle anyway.
These are some of the things to expect when planning to date an Asian woman. They’re unique ladies, and understanding them will go a long way in making your relationship a success.