This is a story that is awfully familiar to a lot of people, graduated and unemployed with no experience or connections, yes we know the story too well, but add a pandemic to the mix, I have to admit if this was a script, I would deem the writer a villain. I am a recently graduated student, before the pandemic everything was looking up, I had two potential jobs and a business venture I was to invest in but at the blink of an eye, everything was gone. To say I felt lost and sabotaged is an understatement of how I truly felt.
I know a lot of people are going through something of this nature, it may not be identical, your story may be far more heartbreaking but bottom line is, we are all going through a period of uncertainty and can't help but ask ourselves "NOW WHAT?" Although things are now looking up, with a few countries relaxing and some even ending their lock-down periods, a lot of people have also found themselves unemployed with companies filing for bankruptcy and some like the Cosmopolitan shutting down.
So whether like me, you are graduated and unemployed or have been laid off or even have found yourself working from home something which a lot of people are unfamiliar with, here are a few pointers that could help keep your head above the water because well, we going through some change and change can be terrifying.
- CALM DOWN!
Breath, seriously breath. Remember you are not the only one going through this, we are in this together. You need to consistently remind yourself that there isn't much you or anyone can do, what the world is currently facing is beyond you or us, so its okay to feel a little unhinged and not have anything figured out and well its going to take time for things to get back to normal so do yourself a favor, BREATH.
2. Its not a one size fits all.
There is a lot of information circulating currently and I have to admit it can be overwhelming. From news, people telling you what to do and not to do, it may be too much. I recently came across a post on Instagram that stated that if one didn't come out of this period with a new skill they lacked discipline and I found it a bit condescending. Why? Because we all have not been impacted by this in the same way and neither were we made to have identical reactions to situations so DO YOU. During this period your mental health is more important than being productive because someone on social media says so. Take your time to understand what you feeling and take your time figuring out what you want to do during this period, if you not as emotionally stable as you ought to be, seek help, talk to someone, let everything you do be at your pace and completely what you need. If you want to build a new skill, start a business or even just sit and relax that is totally fine but let it be something that you want and need.
It took me five weeks to figure myself out during this period, yes five weeks of absolutely no productivity but just spending time with myself and focusing on my mental health. Did i die? absolutely not, but do I feel much better than I ever did in years, YES.
3. Do what you love
Well we have ample time now so why not do the things you love, those things that you talked yourself out of or those things you never found time to do. Since you can't really go to work, apply for jobs or you have found yourself at home with your family and kids order, why not start reading a book, start working out, spend time with family, watch a movie,learn about wine, find time to do something for you that makes you happy and fulfills you.
4. Have a routine
The need to have control over our lives and environment is in our DNA, we are consistently planning, chasing goals, dreams or deadlines. Now that we can't do the things we usually do or that are normal to do and can't plan our lives or worse find ourselves in a situation were all our plans are in shambles , we feel a little unhinged. So try developing a routine, it will not only help give you a sense of achievement at the end of each day but it will also help put things into perspective for you, help you stay calm and give you a sense of control your life and your environment.
For instance in my case, I wake up at 0730 everyday, exercise for an hour, take a warm shower, dress like am going somewhere, spend about 30 minutes time reading a book or listening to something positive and motivational, spend another 30 minutes doing something that will develop my career then spend the rest of the day relaxing watching TV, bonding with family or doing just about anything I want to do.
It does not have to be anything intense or hectic but something to help give your day or life some form of structure.
I hope this will be of help to you as much as it has been of help to me. It will work out, we all don't know how but it will, just like the world survived the SARS virus in 2003, the world will survive this too, just remember to breathe.
take it Gucci alright.